There was an article in The Times the other day (that I can’t link you with because of their paywall) that reported that 47% of a recent YouGov survey thought that unmarried couples had the same rights when they split up as married couples. Indeed 51% of the women in the survey thought this (as against only 42% of the men). And this is wrong – very wrong. Because they have hardly any rights when they split up, and those they have are difficult to enforce in an effective way.
If a married couple split up then the courts have very wide powers under the Matrimonial Causes Act 1973 to transfer assets between them, order one party to pay the other maintenance or to transfer pension entitlement, and also make orders in respect of any children. If one of them dies there are provisions to allow the survivor to claim reasonable financial provision from the estate under the Inheritance (Provision for Family and Dependents) Act 1975. Insurance policies usually allow for a surviving spouse to receive payment, and they inherit the bulk of the estate and have the right to administer the estate of their late partner under the Administration of Estates Acts, if there is no will.
Very little of this applies to an unmarried partner. The courts can declare what the parties rights in any property are, but can’t alter them. So if Lucy lives in Alex’s house, she won’t normally have any rights to a share of it, even if she has lived there for many years. Nor does she have any rights to a share of his income, or his pension, and if he dies without leaving a will in her favour his estate will go to his children, or parents or siblings and she will get nothing, unless she can persuade the court to award her maintenance under the Inheritance etc Act – which is much more limited than a widow’s rights, and depends on her proving that she was financially dependant.
It is of course a bit more complicated that this if Lucy contributed to the purchase price of the house, or was formally on the title as a joint owner, although even then things aren’t that clear, as the Supreme Court showed in the case of Jones v Kernott (see my piece on this here). She will have to struggle through the provisions of the Trusts of Land and Appointment of Trustees Act 1996 (“Tolata”) where ss 14 and 15 give the courts powers to regulate the actions of the trustees and declare the rights of the beneficiaries. But note that the power is only to declare the rights, not to alter them.
If the couple have children then there will be rights to apply for maintenance for the children, and they will inherit from their father in the normal way. And it is possible for Lucy to make an application for a capital sum under the Children Act to benefit the children, although hardly any applications are made (only 141 applications in the Central London Family Court in 2014) which must mean that it is less than overwhemingly attractive. But Lucy will still have very limited rights herself, and may end up with sordid squabbles about who bought the toaster, and if Alex did, was it bought as a gift for her, or was it intended to remain his, or was it bought for both of them? And then they go on to the fridge…
In a marriage (or indeed a Civil Partnership, whch is the same for virtually all purposes) the court can just transfer the toaster to Lucy and have done with it. Or not, if appropriate. Actual ownership isn’t decisive.
So parties who are married have much better legal rights and much more effective ways of resolving any disputes if they need to do so. These rights are not perfect, and many husbands have argued they are biased in favour of wives and mothers, but they work in practice, and get tweaked from time to time.
Cohabitation Rights Bill
Now that more and more couples are living together without marriage all these problems become more and more important, especially as a much greater proportion of unmarried couples split up than married couples. There is a lot of pressure to give cohabitees at least some rights, if not all the rights of married couples, and Lord Marks of Henley-on-Thames introduced the CRB in the last parliament, and has now re-introduced it following the election, and it is working its way slowly through the House of Lords at present. The current version is here.
The Bill covers “cohabitants” who are living together as a couple and either
- have a child or
- have been living together for two years
and are not married to each other, but could be because they are not within the prohibited degrees of relationship (ie parent, grandparent, brother or sister, aunt or uncle, plus some complicated relationships involving children of former civil partners etc).
In such cases, if the relationship breaks down one party will be able to apply to the court for a “financial settlement order”, asking for lump sums, transfers of property, sharing of pensions and so on, very similar to the courts’ powers for a marriage. However, one important difference is that the court’s powers can only be triggered if satisfied that one party has retained a benefit, or the other party has an economic disadvantage as a result of a “qualifying contribution” made by the applicant, and that it is just and equitable to make an order, taking into account a check-list of factors. These include
- the welfare of any children
- income and earning abilities, and financial status of the parties
- financial needs of the parties
- (in some circumstances) the conduct of the parties.
A further difference is that parties will be able to sign agreements to opt-out of financial settlement orders, but only if they are both separately legally advised. Even then the court can set such an agreement aside if it considers that the agreement is “manifestly unfair” either because of the circumstances in which it was made, or any subsequent unforseen change in circumstances.
There are also provisions dealing with the deaths of the parties, rights on intestacy and other matters.
A Gold-Diggers’ Charter?
I have my doubts about how all this would work in practice, and in all fairness this is based on the first draft version of the bill, which may well be improved as it goes on. It has already provoked strong feelings on both sides. Some feel that it reflects reality in modern societies, and that it should go further in equating cohabitation and marriage. Others feel, however, that any rights are either going to be too weak to be effective, or will be exploited by members of short-term relationships, especially if they have children from earlier relationships already. “A gold-diggers’ charter” some say.
My Solution
I think they have both got the wrong end of the stick, and have a proposal which would make a real difference to cohabitation in future.
Parties intending to live together permanently should enter into a “cohabitaton agreement” which would give them significant enhanced rights. The agreement would not be compulsory but should be encouraged by say tax benefits and social pressure. After a time I would expect it to become normal and for people who did not do so to be a small minority.
The agreement could be fairly short, and merely require the parties to live together and look after each other to the exclusion of third parties. In order to make it more attractive and romantic you could include phrases about “in sickness and in health” and “to love and to cherish”.
The parties should make the agreement by saying the words out loud before some state official and in the presence of at least two independent witnesses. This way there could be no argument about whether they consented to it or not. They may give each other small gifts such as a ring. Then they would all sign a register. Clearly this will need to be set up beforehand, and they will no doubt get their families and friends to attend. There may be some singing or at any rate music, and everybody will no doubt go off for a few drinks or even a full-scale party afterwards.
The basics would only cost a couple of hundred pounds, although if you wanted to pay more then nobody would stop you. Your parents may well chip in, and of course everybody would dress up. It may become fashionable or indeed standard for the woman to wear a fancy dress of a distinctive colour, and the man would wear a very smart suit which he may have to hire.
Afterwards the parties would have all the rights and privileges of a married couple. As indeed they would be.
You cannot be serious!
Well perhaps not. But I think a lot of people have overlooked the distinction between a marriage and the wedding. You don’t need a vast multi-thousand pound celebration to be married, but you do need to enter into some basic commitments if you are going to live together for the long term. Societies have had marriage for thousands of years and they can’t all be wrong. Perhaps the problem today is that we have the solution to the difficulties of cohabitation right in front of us and can’t see it.
But I’m a lawyer, not a politician, so all I can do is point out the facts, and leave it to others to make the changes.